You may have just gone through the life-changing trauma of divorce or you may have been divorced for a while. Your life has ended as you knew it for so many years. Some of your roles and routines are different. Here are some simple suggestions you may want to incorporate as you journey down the Road to Recovery.
First, purchase a journal and get used to journaling for a few minutes a day–even three or four times a week to start. Sometimes the mind can race at 100 mph. Writing out your thoughts can help to engage the mind actively in the present moment. It can be very cathartic and healing. Writing down your thoughts can create an emotional release which can lower stress, anxiety, or pain.
When I was a counselor many years ago, I would have younger children draw the problem they were experiencing; as at that age, sometimes they aren’t sophisticated enough to verbalize it. I was then able to help them to describe it. Others would write down their feelings as it was an easier way to express themselves. One student told me it felt like the feelings were passing through his hand and out unto the paper.
During my recovery after divorce, my journal was sometimes my best friend. It was “my go” to when there wasn’t anyone around to whom I could express emotions that would sometimes come up. I found it to be a very powerful tool that I continue to use today.
Second, if you don’t already do so, start a meditation practice and you can start with as little as a few minutes a day. It can help to calm the mind and help to manage stress. There are many free meditation apps out there. I use Insight Timer which offers many beginner meditations to choose from. You can also sign up for Daily OM which will send messages to your inbox of conscious awareness for mind, body, and spirit
Third, and most important of all, take care of yourself physically–self-care. Make that a priority. Having a good diet, exercise, and proper rest is a must. Incorporating a healthy lifestyle is important to boost self-esteem and well-being.
Last, but not least, you should have a good support system. Find a tribe where you fit in and feel comfortable. If you don’t have one right now, this Facebook group I started can be the beginning of engaging with like-minded people who have the same goals in mind to move forward.
Do you have any tips or tools to post and share that have helped you as you are making the transition to embrace a new beginning?