Creating effective daily habits as you navigate your new and different life after divorce enables you to recover and heal more quickly. By setting up a daily routine to start the day, you feel more confidence and clarity making the best possible decisions and choices when they arise.
Setting healthy boundaries, taking positive action, and cultivating healthy relationships helps to navigate challenging conditions, situations, and circumstances with more dignity, control, and grace.
Learning to understand what goes on in the body and the mind allows you to feel compassion for yourself when you are feeling overwhelmed and exhausted.
When we feel extreme pressure or anxiety, the limbic system in the brain switches into action trying to protect us from harm. It activates the fight, flight, or freeze response which is why we feel uncomfortable physical emotions and reactions to a difficult, painful situation.
In the event that the limbic system is in activated, it hampers the effectiveness of the pre-frontal cortex that needs to be in control when faced with life-changing decisions. The pre-frontal cortex needs to be in charge during this time so that we have greater impulse control.
Learning to create awareness within ourselves when experiencing these feelings will give the ability to manage our emotions better, make better decisions, and design a goal plan to take the best course of action.
As a simple guide to help you do this, download this Daily Empowerment Routine Log. By incorporating this log into your life as a daily habit, it helps you to stay mentally strong as you transform your life. It will remind you to take care of the following:
• Make sure to take care of yourself so that your brain has sufficient energy to think clearly. Get enough sleep, maintain a proper diet, and exercise.
• Engage in a meditation practice. When the uncomfortable feelings begin to manifest, take a time out. “Hit the pause button”. Taking a step back from a stressful situation can give the time needed to slow down reactions. As a result, it give the time needed to think more clearly. Practice the awareness of the breath. Focus on that until you feel a semblance of control which allows you to act instead of reacting to a situation.
• Change your mindset. Your mindset has the greatest impact on how you will meet this challenge. You can choose to change your perspective and thoughts from negative ones to ones of strength and courage. You build the power within to get through this challenging time.
• Keep a journal of your thoughts and feelings. It supplies an outlet for intense feelings and emotions. Writing is a thinking exercise and writing about one’s emotional challenges helps to gain a fresh perspective and gives the necessary outlet that is a great self-help strategy.
You are changing a part of you that has been a certain way for a long time. It will create havoc inside of you simply because you are doing things differently that go against what has been your daily habits and routine. Going forward, you’ll be changing the paradigm, and you will experience chaos and confusion for a time.
Use the Daily Empowerment Routine Log as a guide to create your own. Here’s what mine looks like every morning. I get up an hour earlier so that I have the quiet time to focus on my intention for the new day. My goal is to begin the day with a great attitude; and as I interact with others, this great attitude touches them as well.
I write in my gratitude journal ten things I am grateful for right now in my life. Additionally, there are things that I write about that have not yet happened but that I visualize in my mind as happening for the future. An example would be this. “I am so happy and grateful now that I travel to Italy and France through Backroads Travel.”
Next, I write “I AM” statements that boost my confidence and creates a cheerful outlook within myself. My favorite example is “I am worthy”.
A great self-image is key in achieving the life that you imagine to be living for a future that is filled with joy and happiness.
Finally, I sit in quiet meditation. It doesn’t mean that I try to shut out what thoughts are coming in. In my practice, I am learning how to notice my thoughts instead of getting all involved with them. Learning to notice the self-talk and observe it, I can decide whether or not it is going to empower me or drag me down. Getting caught up in negative self-talk is disempowering and puts us in a low vibration.
For example, the thought might come up that I can’t create more income where I am in my present situation. Instead of allowing that thought to seep into my mind, I notice it.
By observing it, I choose not to accept it as my potential reality. I choose to relax and release that thought. Then, I replace it with a more self-empowering one.
In order to make a little more space within myself for a positive thought, here’s what I come up with. “I’m going to brainstorm, and come up with different ideas on how to generate more income. I’ll keep on writing until I come up with around 20 ideas. I know they all won’t be great. Then, I’ll circle the top three, explore their possibilities, and act on them.”
Be fearless. Have compassion for yourself. Download the Daily Empowerment Routine Log.