Welcome back to “Empower The Vision In You” coaching series blogs. This is coaching tip #7 in a series over 30 days. Each one builds upon the one before it. My purpose in presenting these blogs is to take you step by step in the process of creating your life from the inside out moving you from where you are to where you want to be.
In the last coaching article, I wrote about the first common challenge that gets in the way to success. Today, I am writing about coaching tip #7, the second common obstacle to success which is the comments and opinions coming from others. You need to close your mind to any discouraging , disheartening, disparaging words and actions–even if they come from family and friends. They mean well, of course, but it doesn’t help you move forward.
For example, I had a coaching client who wanted to start her own business. She worked herself up through the ranks and became the CEO of a company she worked for. In her mind, she saw herself as the creator of her own company and felt she could be a great success. When she disclosed this to family and friends, what did she get? She got discouraging, disheartening, and disparaging comments from those close to her.
“Oh seriously, you want to start your own business. Are you crazy? You have great salary and benefits . Think about what that will do to the financial stability of your family.”
“Don’t you read the newspaper or listen to the news? The statistics of those starting a new company are awfully low don’t you know?”
If my client listened to those remarks and took them inside of herself to be true, she would probably put her dream out with the trash. BUT if she closes her mind off to outside distractions and influences by using her WILL, a mental muscle, no obstacle or objection will stand in her way.
Successful people and people who live above the ordinary don’t listen to discouraging words obviously or we would still believe that a woman can’t be president. Let’s take the dynamics of a relationship, for example. Let’s say you lost that 20 lbs. Well, your self-confidence will most certainly be greater, and perhaps you will decide that you would like to also change your personal relationship with your spouse or significant other to a more successful, pleasing one. After all, if you could lose the weight, why not start improving on all areas of your life? Another example might be that you now decided that you were going for the promotion that someone else thought he or she deserved-and that person was a personal friend of yours. It might cause a conflict or put a wedge in the friendship you have–especially if you got the promotion yourself on your own merit.
Other things change when you make a change and can easily cause a disturbance on many levels. You have to realize that this can happen. You need to decide that you are going to be true to yourself and make the change as long as you are ethical and respectful of others. You deserve to have what you want in life. If others want it and think they can get it, why can’t you. Imagine that.. What if…
Sadly, you may have to let go of some friendships or maybe even close family ties while you are pursuing your dream or goal. Others don’t want things to change either. What you do will most certainly have an effect on them. You may need to make a tough decision, and close out all negativity and challenges to persuade you to stay where you are. Sadly again, and listen carefully, most people are thinking of their own agenda and how it will affect them. What it will mean for them.
So, be on the lookout for tip #8 of the coaching series, Empower the Vision in You.