We’ve all make choices knowing they just don’t feel right. The ones we make, all the while, ignoring the uneasy warning signals the body sends both mentally and physically.
Clearly, it feels wrong but we made the choice in spite of those warning indicators.
At the time, we didn’t feel confident enough or we didn’t believe we could push through our beliefs to trust in what our feelings and emotions were telling us .
And so, we ignored the inner knowing or nagging whispers.
The smart divorced woman trusts her intuition and acts upon it swiftly and with confidence. She has developed the “awareness” or “alertness” having faith in her feelings to let her know the right course of action; and then, she acts in line with that.
This is taken from Jack Canfield’s book, The Success Principles, it’s a delightful way that reveals how our power is hidden in plain sight.
“According to an ancient legend, there was a time when ordinary people had access to all the knowledge of the gods. Yet time and again, they ignored this wisdom. One day, the gods grew tired of so freely giving a gift the people didn’t use, so they decided to hide this precious wisdom where only the most committed of seekers would discover it.
They believed that if people had to work to find this wisdom, they would use it more carefully. One of the gods suggested that they bury it deep in the earth. The other gods decided that too many people could easily dig down and find it.
At the same time, another suggested that they put it in the deepest ocean but that idea also rejected. Besides, they knew that people would one day learn to dive and thus would find it too easily.
Likewise, one of the gods suggested hiding it on the highest mountaintop, but it was quickly agreed that people could climb mountains.
Finally, one of the wisest gods suggested hiding it deep inside of the people themselves. They will never think to look in there. And so it came to be and so it continues today.”
Having a clear understanding of your character is “key” to developing more self-awareness. What is your character? It is comprised of your strengths and weaknesses, opinions and principles, along with your motivations and feelings.
As a smart divorced woman, you continue to develop greater self-awareness. You begin to learn how to watch your thoughts and the way you interpret them.
As a result, it will give you the power to change beliefs and behaviors, and the way you respond to them. With practice, you will learn to think and act more in line with personal conviction and poise.
Your actions will reflect what you want instead of what others may expect.
Oftentimes, we are unaware of outside influences, conditioning, and circumstances that might get in the way of making choices and decisions that should be coming from a place of confidence and trust.
We have to make decisions all the time. Throughout the day, try becoming conscious and mindful of when you need to make a decision that is important. Do you factor in what others would do or even think about the decision?
If so, you are giving too much power to others as you even acknowledge how they make you feel. Learning to become more self-aware will enable you to begin to make more choices and decisions because they FEEL right for you.
The power is inside. It is the hunches, flashes, inspiration that doesn’t come in from the five sensory factors.
As a smart divorced woman, you then learn to be still, listen, and trust that you will know the right course of action to take with any decision.
What decision have you made lately that you know came from a place of inner conviction and trust? Was it easy to do or did it take some deep thought and reflection?
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