The third step in my results-driven process after divorce is Reconnecting With Self. When you have made enough room to explore disconnecting a part of the past—meaning untangling your own identity and past roles that defined you before, you will begin to reconnect with who you are now. Playing roles and assuming identities oftentimes enabled us play parts that took time and effort away for our own wants and needs. There is surely nothing wrong with that; but gaining back a part of what we may have lost in the past, it can lead to happiness and strength for the future as you access more and more of the power within you—reconnecting to self.
Here is a quote I wrote just for you:
Move past the cage of fear and confines that the mind creates.
Push through self-imposed limits and boundaries.
Beyond the mental bars, freedom awaits!”
Reconnecting with self means having the courage to step into the unknown out of your comfort zone. Choosing to step into the unknown means figuring out the path you are meant to be on. Celebrate the feeling of pushing past the boundaries and limiting beliefs because this is how you learn to become who you are supposed to be for the future. When you take control, you will learn how to move from where you are to where you envision yourself to be—one little step at a time. Pushing past the mental bars you set up for yourself, you will experience the freedom to create a new life on your own terms.
Here are a few questions you might want to answer that are taken from my Reconnecting With Self Personal Assessment.
1. Many of us are shaped by a form-fitting mold that others have designed for us—meaning outside influences shape how we think, act, and behave in particular situations. Oftentimes, we are not even aware of it. As a result, we place expectations upon ourselves that can hamper reconnecting with who we truly are. As you look back over your life, can you think of one social pressure or limiting belief that has held you back from being the person you envision yourself to be? Please comment if you are willing to share your answer.
2. Think about those that are in your innermost circle—family, friends, co-workers. Are they mostly compassionate, positive and loving? It is important to embrace the good relationships you have and access the value of those that are negative or emotionally draining. Is there a relationship in your present life that doesn’t empower you and holds you back in some way? Describe it.